tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5395166533939958460.post5661261958489373916..comments2023-08-25T05:32:44.278-07:00Comments on Mommy's in a Timeout: Miss Communicationanniemcqhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04321843578386603574noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5395166533939958460.post-89632824128526155182008-01-23T23:11:00.000-08:002008-01-23T23:11:00.000-08:00I already told you what I think about this, but al...I already told you what I think about this, but allow me to expand.<BR/><BR/>It's true that we accept a great burden of communication on behalf our our students; we attempt to fill the gaps until they can be taught to fill them for themselves. I think that it's inevitable that you will say or do something that will affect someone negatively; not out of malice, or even ignorance, but simply because over time I think the onus of communication causes us to think differently while we're in "work mode". How many times have you found yourself wondering about the behavior of mainstream students, simply because it's far from whatever norm we might experience in our classes? I use the word norm advisedly here.<BR/><BR/>At the end of the day, you own what you do and say. That should be enough for most adults with any measure of self-possession. Of course, this attitude gets me into trouble, mostly because I have little patience with people who choose to spend any significant portion of their lives nursing real or imagined grievances. For those people, I like to do this:<BR/><BR/>Hold your pinky with the tip of your thumb, the other three fingers together (like the Boy Scout salute), then tell them to read between the lines.Stutopianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01110218189427867158noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5395166533939958460.post-66375106692215324712008-01-22T09:10:00.000-08:002008-01-22T09:10:00.000-08:00I've done that, and probably will again. But emai...I've done that, and probably will again. But email's even worse. I fire off some smartass comment that I mean as a joke and end up really hurting or angering somebody. It's hard living among other humans; we all rub each the wrong way sooner or later. I'm sorry it happened to you!I, Rodiushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08199985322178825076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5395166533939958460.post-25575699855979787962008-01-21T06:41:00.000-08:002008-01-21T06:41:00.000-08:00oh sweetie -- my heart goes out to you -- I'm reel...oh sweetie -- my heart goes out to you -- I'm reeling from a similar recent misstep with someone I love very much -- the damage I created without even trying takes my breath away -- those are the kinds of stumbles that only forgiveness and a willingness to love one other can repair.<BR/><BR/>hope your dear one showers you with some of both.suttonhoohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17292408097588177380noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5395166533939958460.post-43522393662040667382008-01-20T07:45:00.000-08:002008-01-20T07:45:00.000-08:00Good Lord, welcome to my life.My problem is that I...Good Lord, welcome to my life.<BR/><BR/>My problem is that I am NOT afraid (usually) of saying exactly what I mean and meaning what I say, but I think we live in a culture that does not promote that. We are supposed to be nice and sweet and complimentary all the time - otherwise we are being bitchy and snarky.<BR/><BR/>Most of the time (I won't lie and say all the time) I sincerely do not mean to hurt anyone's feelings - I just think, mistakenly, that if someone asks me a question or comes to me for advice or whatever, that they want my true opinion. I do try to withold my opinion unless asked for it (something that took me 10 years of pissing people off to learn) unless it's my blog, and then it's all fair game if you click on it.<BR/><BR/>So, most people in my circle end up calling me "brutally honest" or say that they are a bit "afraid of me" ... and I have accepted that, because I am who I am, and if you decide to hang around with me, well, I'm going to assume that you like and accept me that way. And know that my heart is good, even if I inadvertently come off as caustic or critical.<BR/><BR/>But yeah...it's hard when people don't realize intentions.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5395166533939958460.post-64285255576239248912008-01-19T19:46:00.000-08:002008-01-19T19:46:00.000-08:00oh yes, this happens to me almost every day. The ...oh yes, this happens to me almost every day. The saying of innocuous things that aren't innocuous. (also sometimes the non-saying of things, but that is harder to admit)Lolabola*https://www.blogger.com/profile/05963109907514760086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5395166533939958460.post-73012279761512701352008-01-19T18:19:00.000-08:002008-01-19T18:19:00.000-08:00I hear ya. I was ironically a comms major in coll...I hear ya. I was ironically a comms major in college....who'd a thunk?brookeisacrazyladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00196457186614128325noreply@blogger.com