Monday, March 1, 2010

A Heck Of My Own Making

This weekend I had wonderful experiences.

I got to take pictures of a gorgeous family.

I went with my boys and an added friend to a beautiful park.

The sun was shining and the air smelled fresh and sweet.

I ate ice cream. Twice, for goodness' sake!

So why is it that the comments of someone I don't even like got under my skin? So much so that I actually spent time with a frown on my face, heaving sighs loud enough that my son finally said "Mom, you are the best mom ever. You do so many nice things for people. He's just a grump, don't let him get to you!". I mean, honestly, I'm more angry with myself that I spent two minute even THINKING about what this guy thought of me.

And angrier still that I modeled that behavior for my boy, who I am always telling "don't worry about what people think, ESPECIALLY people you don't like."

Parenting Fail.


Anonymous said...

I don't know...I think it's a pretty big mom victory that you have raised a kid who is that astute, insightful and amazing. JMO. :)

I, Rodius said...

You gave him the opportunity to articulate the lessons you've taught him. That works, right?

anniemcq said...

I love you guys. I came down with a sore throat and cold today which I think explains why I was being so hard on myself. Thanks for pointing out the obvious! xoxoxo

Robin Amos Kahn said...

I think it is so human to focus on that one person in the room or wherever that criticizes because that's our own little internal critic talking.

Don't beat yourself up about it and eventually it will pass. (And probably already has.) But I totally relate and I think everyone, if they're honest, can too.

And it's true - what a gift Joe-Henry is to all of us.

Alycia said...

He's got the message from you very clearly. You modelled behaviour he shouldn't follow for him to demonstrate understanding of the lesson you've taught.

Ignore the dickheads who comment without even knowing you. THey need a life.

Love ya.

Anonymous said...

It is hard even when you don't like somebody.

You son sounds very sweet.