Do you ever have one of those days where you feel like all you do is say no? I'm in that place right now, and I know that it's just a matter of Joe-Henry (and his dad) testing my boundaries, to see where mom/wife ends and chaos begins, but honestly it wears me out. With my husband, it's simply a matter of talking things out, and that's actually a very good thing, but with Joe-Henry, I feel like he puts me in a position where I can't help but be the boring, awful, stern mom who has way too many rules.
And yes, I know he'll thank me for it someday. And no, the rules don't change because I'm tired and want a break.
But damn. It does get monotonous. I hear myself, and think - "loosen up", but I can't, because I think he needs the no's, he's deliberately going to the place where he knows the no's are, and specifically nosing for the no's. (sorry - I couldn't stop myself).
I'm looking for ways to fit some more "yes"es (yes's?) into our time together. But until then, here we are. "No Mom's" land.
I'll let you know if I get out.